I must confess that I wrote this note out of repentant heart.
Recently, I have been watching Ron Carpenter (a pastor in South Carolina) talk about relationships and what they look like in the Kingdom and should look like on this earth. I like it. Actually, to confess, I love what he's saying, because it's not spiritual, it's practical, he doesn't emphasize feelings and attraction.. he talks about compatibility and complementing each other. He points that Eve was brought out of Adam and because of her being birthed out of Adam's side.. there is longing for the two to become once again in such an intimate connection that it is nothing short of a gift of God. So refreshing.
I write this note because I think for the first time in my life I am starting to see what true relationship and compatibility looks like. Traditional dating does not teach us that. It asks us to dress ourselves up, look pretty, and wear a facade that shows nothing of what we are really like. I want to be real in relationship.
A small tangent, I apologize.
I grow weary with what guys are becoming nowadays. Seriously. Too many of my friends are stuck in relationships in which the guys are lazy, don't work, are bums, and are not willing to step up and be a man. Men are not being men. Women are asked to fill a role that is not their's to fill because the man has lost his position and has chosen to be a passive leader and just let life pass by. Breaks my heart.
I, even in this last relationship, let my selfishness take root and hold and did not honor what I should have honored. Now it didn't work out for a number of reasons, but God is showing me the importance of honoring Eve and what I can do to work on myself during a season of singleness. I guess it's a call and a challenge to let God so transform, change, and overcome me that I am no longer the boy that is full of selfishness and in the negative, but I have value to offer a relationship and something to offer someone... OTHER THAN MY BAGGAGE! I don't want the next girl in my life to inherit my baggage... I want her to gain someone who is self aware, acknowledges that there is some junk in his trunk, but is willing to take it to the Cross and let God work on him and change him, little by little, from glory to glory.
I don't want to be a hindrance or burden, but a blessing and man that complements her very being.
Ugh.
The start of the note was birthed out of my frustration as to what guys are not. We are no longer honoring women, no longer pursuing women, no longer praying for them, no longer just calling to see how they are, no longer talking to them about their future and what they want in life.... but what we are doing is: taking them to meals we can't afford, waiting for them to pursue us, letting them treat us like we are the only person in their life while we treat them like they are the least of importance to us, we are beating them, abusing them, flirting with them, sexing them up, shacking them up, and ignoring and avoiding any type of commitment. I DO NOT WANT TO BE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God. Bring me back to the heart of Adam. He loved Eve, he loved YOU, he screwed up, but man... grace. I'm tired of being a boy... I'm tired of the "shopping" bring me to a place where the love I have for you.. meets the love that someone else has for you..... deep calls to deep.... father me and teach me to be a man.
Thank you for relationship and grace to learn from our mistakes. Bring us back some real men.. we sure as HECK could use them!
Dan
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